Relationship issues

Remember, there’s no such thing as a ‘perfect relationship’.

It’s normal and healthy to experience challenges and conflicts that come with the ups and downs of life. However, it can become unhealthy when these challenges and conflicts occur frequently or last for extended periods.

Being aware of what it feels like to experience relationship problems can help you recognise them early. This way, you can approach issues as they come up and try to resolve them before they get worse.

To gain clarity, you can try:

It’s also always okay to contact a support service for guidance.

If those aren’t options for you at the moment, you can contact Lifeline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

It’s important to acknowledge that a problematic relationship isn’t the same as an abusive relationship. Abuse is a form of domestic and family violence.

If you suspect you’re in a domestic and family violence situation, you deserve support and there are people who want to help.

While it’s important to build healthy relationships with others, the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.

If you don’t feel like you like, trust, value, or believe in yourself, it can be difficult to have healthy relationships with others or leave an unhealthy relationship.

If you’re looking for ways to have healthy, ongoing relationships, you can visit our long-term help section.

We all want to be confident–nothing can make or break your ability to create the life you want as your self-esteem. There are clear links between the way we feel about ourselves and our overall mental and emotional well-being. It is also very intricately linked to how you see the world. Counsellors help you recognize your full potential, work on communication skills, and find motivation. For many, speaking with a therapist can help them see their problems more clearly and take action.

Relationships can have a significant impact on how you feel. This includes your relationships with family members, colleagues, friends, and romantic partners. It is not uncommon to seek help with a relationship that has become a source of anxiety ad distress. A counsellor is able to listen objectively and are a neutral third party. They can help you better understand and nurture the relationships that are important to you.

Finding and creating a great relationship is a life goal many amongst us have. Whether it is improving the relationship one is in or finding a healthy partner, relationship concerns often drive people to counselling. Counsellors will work with clients to understand why things have gone wrong and how problems can be overcome. Many counsellors work with families and couples.

Having a career, one loves or improving your current job situation is a pressing life problem for many. It can be especially challenging to find a new orientation for your career. Sometimes people are thinking about quitting their job and starting their own business, others want to find more satisfaction in their current occupation. We spend a lot of our time at work and our relationship with our job can greatly impact of our mood and day to day functioning.

Many people seek out counselling with the vague goal of “being” happier. The goal of therapy is to help you live a more fulfilled, functional, and happier life by helping you deal with your thoughts, emotions, and the daily stresses of life. Often over the course of treatment, clients often discover that happiness in and of itself is not the goal but comes as a by-product of something else in life.

A negative mindset cannot create a positive life. Yet many struggle to limit their negative self-talk. Getting aware of your negative thought patterns and reframing them is a key to getting the negativity out of your life. Awareness is the first important step. The second step in identifying, reframing, and implementing change. CBT is commonly utilized to achieve this goal.

It is quite common for a client to report feeling restless or dissatisfied with their life. Often people can’t put their finger on why as on paper their life seems to be going well. Many clients are looking to develop peace of mind and live at harmony with themselves and the world around them. This can be achieved by working on one’s inner psychology.

Many people feel their life lacks passion–whether it is their relationship, professional life, or their day-to-day experience in general. Many come to counselling to tap into the passion that may have long escaped their life.

One’s mental focus is important to being successful in life. Where your focus your attention, one’s time and energy go. Being able to concentrate and effectively use one’s mental focus, is a key skill that can really improve your overall life. When people are struggling emotionally, they often report struggling to focus.

Counselling is an effective way for people with mental health problems and to work through their symptoms in a supportive environment. Many come to therapy because they feel depressed often described as the “common cold” of mental health issues. Yet whether it is an anxiety disorder or mood disorder, many emotional issues can be alleviated through talk therapy.

People who are in periods of transitions or are facing down a pivotal decision, can benefit from counselling. Common transitions include adjusting to adulthood, starting a new career, marriage, becoming a parent, divorce, death of a loved one, retirement, etc. Some people benefit from the unbiased feedback that a counsellor can provide. I often remind clients that in your personal life, people have opinions of what you should be doing, often a vested interest in what you decide/how it impacts them. Your counsellor does not.

As Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Counselling is a good opportunity to reflect on past experiences and explore feelings and values. Having the insight to understand what makes us who we are; why we respond the way we do; what excites us and drives our passion; and what challenges us and produces negative thoughts. Self-awareness is the basis for doing well life well.

Many people feel those around them do not understand them. Sometimes they feel alone. It is normal to be different and it is worth exploring. We all experience the world through our own eyes, and from our own perspective-this is why two people can witness the same event and have vastly different recollections of it. Naturally, this makes it difficult for us to step outside of ourselves, and realize that everyone also experiences their world through their own unique lens. Yet connection is important and the feeling that we “fit in” are basic human needs. A counsellor can help you celebrate both our differences and embrace our commonalities.

It is important to remember that talking to a counsellor is not the same as talking to a friend. Counsellors are trained to be careful and unbiased listeners. Therapists guide people through some of the most personal and painful experiences of their lives. When appropriate, your therapist may challenge you to recognize thought and relationship patterns that aren’t helping you move forward.

It is important to realize that counselling and mental health treatment is a healthy action for everybody. Whatever the reason is for seeking it out, clients will find a safe and confidential environment with a supportive individual who will listen to them non-judgementally and strive to understand thoughts and feelings from a client’s point of view. Clients come from all walks of life; a little counselling can help everybody to improve their everyday lives

 

Talk therapy, also called psychotherapy, is the process by which a person attends sessions with a therapist to talk through their experiences. Types of talking therapy include cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), behavioural therapy, and more.

In talk therapy, a psychologist will discuss previous traumas and psychiatric conditions with a person in order to treat, evaluate, and diagnose various mental health conditions. The psychologist will help people resolve and process issues verbally. They may also help individuals forge a path forward through disorders that have interfered with daily activities.

Keep reading to learn more about talk therapy, including how it works, the various conditions it may benefit, and how a person could choose a type of therapy that may work best for them.